Friday, July 20, 2012

Rest for Weary Mothers Who Are Not Used to Staying Home

I am languishing in a nap (not mine, darling son's) that is going on 2 hours.  I have time to think for a second.  Last night after I was awakened by the need to pee, I started thinking about finances.  No particular reason except the usual condition of being a homeowner and the never ending drain on your bank account.  Having worked my entire adult life (actually since age 16) becoming a stay-at-home mom at age 42 was really weird.  I mean, it's great and I dread the thought of putting baby boy in daycare.  But I also have an overwhelming urge to earn money.  How do you take all of that money-earning potential and turn it into baby-raising potential?  Shouldn't my child be exponentially brighter and happier because of all of this potential I have shunted from working in to parenting?  This is quite a dilemma and sometimes I think the solution must be to find a way to work and be a stay-at-home mom.  I know that there is a certain "work family" feeling that we miss when we leave the workplace.  Not to mention the brain activity that a job brings and a 10 month old does not.  Embrace your new niche.  Plug in with others like your self and give yourself a brake! 
As for the finances, I am sure that you would not be staying home if your husband and you had not decided that was right and doable.  Remember to trust in his ability to provide and lead your family.  If you really want to be home, pray for God's provision for you family to allow for that.  If you really do not want to be a stay at home mom, revisit this with your husband and seek God's will on the matter.  He will surely show you the way you should go. 


Let us remember to be satisfied and know that God has us where we are supposed to be.  Do it to His glory, whatever it is that He has you doing.



Psalm 37:3-4
3 Trust in the Lord, and do good;
dwell in the land and befriend faithfulness.
4 Delight yourself in the Lord,
and he will give you the desires of your heart.

Tuesday, June 19, 2012

Get real with God....Again

Hey mommy, are you busy?  Ha!  I used to think I was busy.  Now I know I am busy.  Raising a young child is full time work for sure.  Lately I have focused on child-rearing, nutrition, fitness, my home, blogging and trying to be a good family historian.  You know, taking photos and uploading them and notating all of baby boy's "firsts." 

Today I have a word about the Word.  My sisters out there know what I mean by "quiet time".  I haven't been getting mine.  Would it not be nice to say, "I will get up every morning at 5:30 am and have my devo time"?  The problem is BB (baby boy) sometimes gets up at 5:15 or 5:45 or 6 ...I really do not think I can get up at 4:30 am for devo time.  Not if I want to be coherent enough to hear from the Lord.  So today I am trying something ... when BB takes his nap I will committ to 20 minutes of devo time first, then use the rest of the time for eating, cleaning, bathing or whatever (watching Ellen).

It's easy to miss that time in the Word.  But the rewards are SO great. 

Father, I have missed you.  I am so excited about our reunion!

As the deer pants for the water brooks,
So pants my soul for You, O God.
                                             Psalm 42:1

                                                 

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Fitness and Being 40-Something With a Baby

I have spent the last decade or two trying to stay "fit".  My method has included regular visits to the gym and walking with irregular tries at yoga and bootcamp, both of which I love to do.  But I've never been what you might call athletic.  Anyway, carrying your first babe over 40 does a few things to your bod that make you feel over 40.  Things even younger moms get like backaches and bellies are some how magnified.  Then caring for that babe as he grows does its own little number on that lower back and those joints.  I am getting my best shoulders ever doing baby presses - this is good.

A word for you 40-Something gals thinking of getting pregnant, start tuning up that bod now.  Work on that core and endurance as well as shoulders and buns.  A lot of lifting and bending are headed your way. 

I love being a 40-Something mommie.  I am also aware more than ever of my age, and I want to be strong and healthy for my son.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Quick Healthy Lunch

For Mom, that is.   I have learned to eat lunch when baby is napping.  Whether it is early or late is irrelevant.  I may not have another chance.  After an awesome workout this morning at Baby Boot Camp, I am ravenous.  In the fridge I find leftover wild rice, leftover canellini beans and some spinach.  Throw it all in a bowl, at a pinch of sea salt and tahini and microwave.  Delicious and satisfying!  I didn't think about taking a picture until it was halfway eaten.  Next time!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

7 Things That Changed When I Became a 40-something Stay at Home Mom

I am a woman who considers herself to be educated both formally and through a variety of life experiences.  I did my share of research and reading ("What to Expect...") to prepare myself and my husband for parenthood.  To say a baby changes everything is an understatement.  He changed me.  Here's how...

1.  I hate to state the obvious but, I am now a Mommy.  Yes indeed.  I was not striving all through my 30s to be a mom.  I was not even visualizing myself as a mom.  But in His perfect will, God saw fit to make me a mom at the age of 42.  Now, I've been through a lot of things, especially in my misguided youth, and have done some really hard things, but caring for a newborn is by far the most challenging and rewarding thing I've ever done.

2.  My marriage.  We have been married 3 1/2 years.  We dated 2 years before that.  We were totally into each other and our fun little life before baby.  It took us a few weeks to focus on each other again.  Aside from being occupied with our new roles as mommy and daddy, there is the fatigue factor.  And beware, fatigue can make someone a little less patient and lovey-dovey.  Remember, the marriage must always be first.  Show the love even when you are not feeling it.

3.  My faith.  We prayed for this baby for a year.  Thankfully, fertility was not an issue for us.  However, if you do your research, "they" will say that if there is not a baby after 6 months of trying you have an issue and you should see a specialist.  We decided to keep praying and give God a chance.  This isn't for everyone, I know.  But we thank God for our son.  And we wonder at His handiwork every single day.

4.  Priorities.  All of the sudden fine dining, going to movies, travelling to exotic locations and career just do not seem that important.

5.  Flexibility.  I am the structured lifestyle type.  I like my routine.  That is now out the window.  Flexible is the new me.  Now, the baby's routine is important.  But he is not necessarily adherent to that, except with bed time.

6.  Out of the workplace.  Staying at home is wonderful.  However, there is a huge change involved.  One can experience feelings of isolation, loneliness, and mind mush (i.e. absence of intellectual challenge).  Find a new group of friends.  For me it is Baby Bootcamp, but there is also Gymboree, Mommy and Me Yoga, playgroups and so on. 

7.  Perspective.  Single adults can easily become self-centered.  Not in a conceited way.  It's just that you do everything on your own terms and your own schedule.  When you get married as an older adult, you work through the transition to put your spouse before yourself.  When you have a baby, there is someone else before yourself.  My order is God, husband, baby, me.  And this does not even take into consideration family, church, and service.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Vegetable Chronicles, 2

Yes, it has been five months since my last post.  Whatever, I still consider myself a "new mom" and am, therefore, incredibly preoccupied.  Today I hereby proclaim to resume good posting habits!

I feel like I should offer some follow up on the Vegetable Chronicles.

The garden went neglected last summer as I was very pregnant, and it was the hottest summer in many years here in Big D.

As of today, we have 5 things growing ... italian parsley, rosemary, catnip, weeds and grass.

I really want to fill the spaces growing grass and weeds with marigolds for the summer.  And get rid of the catnip since Milo does not go outside anymore.  One day, we will revive the garden again.  For now, even the flower beds in front of the house are growing last years flowers that wintered well since there was no freeze.  SK is dying to get out there and plant new flowers.  He is still a preoccupied "new dad".