Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Fitness and Being 40-Something With a Baby

I have spent the last decade or two trying to stay "fit".  My method has included regular visits to the gym and walking with irregular tries at yoga and bootcamp, both of which I love to do.  But I've never been what you might call athletic.  Anyway, carrying your first babe over 40 does a few things to your bod that make you feel over 40.  Things even younger moms get like backaches and bellies are some how magnified.  Then caring for that babe as he grows does its own little number on that lower back and those joints.  I am getting my best shoulders ever doing baby presses - this is good.

A word for you 40-Something gals thinking of getting pregnant, start tuning up that bod now.  Work on that core and endurance as well as shoulders and buns.  A lot of lifting and bending are headed your way. 

I love being a 40-Something mommie.  I am also aware more than ever of my age, and I want to be strong and healthy for my son.

Friday, May 25, 2012

Quick Healthy Lunch

For Mom, that is.   I have learned to eat lunch when baby is napping.  Whether it is early or late is irrelevant.  I may not have another chance.  After an awesome workout this morning at Baby Boot Camp, I am ravenous.  In the fridge I find leftover wild rice, leftover canellini beans and some spinach.  Throw it all in a bowl, at a pinch of sea salt and tahini and microwave.  Delicious and satisfying!  I didn't think about taking a picture until it was halfway eaten.  Next time!

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

7 Things That Changed When I Became a 40-something Stay at Home Mom

I am a woman who considers herself to be educated both formally and through a variety of life experiences.  I did my share of research and reading ("What to Expect...") to prepare myself and my husband for parenthood.  To say a baby changes everything is an understatement.  He changed me.  Here's how...

1.  I hate to state the obvious but, I am now a Mommy.  Yes indeed.  I was not striving all through my 30s to be a mom.  I was not even visualizing myself as a mom.  But in His perfect will, God saw fit to make me a mom at the age of 42.  Now, I've been through a lot of things, especially in my misguided youth, and have done some really hard things, but caring for a newborn is by far the most challenging and rewarding thing I've ever done.

2.  My marriage.  We have been married 3 1/2 years.  We dated 2 years before that.  We were totally into each other and our fun little life before baby.  It took us a few weeks to focus on each other again.  Aside from being occupied with our new roles as mommy and daddy, there is the fatigue factor.  And beware, fatigue can make someone a little less patient and lovey-dovey.  Remember, the marriage must always be first.  Show the love even when you are not feeling it.

3.  My faith.  We prayed for this baby for a year.  Thankfully, fertility was not an issue for us.  However, if you do your research, "they" will say that if there is not a baby after 6 months of trying you have an issue and you should see a specialist.  We decided to keep praying and give God a chance.  This isn't for everyone, I know.  But we thank God for our son.  And we wonder at His handiwork every single day.

4.  Priorities.  All of the sudden fine dining, going to movies, travelling to exotic locations and career just do not seem that important.

5.  Flexibility.  I am the structured lifestyle type.  I like my routine.  That is now out the window.  Flexible is the new me.  Now, the baby's routine is important.  But he is not necessarily adherent to that, except with bed time.

6.  Out of the workplace.  Staying at home is wonderful.  However, there is a huge change involved.  One can experience feelings of isolation, loneliness, and mind mush (i.e. absence of intellectual challenge).  Find a new group of friends.  For me it is Baby Bootcamp, but there is also Gymboree, Mommy and Me Yoga, playgroups and so on. 

7.  Perspective.  Single adults can easily become self-centered.  Not in a conceited way.  It's just that you do everything on your own terms and your own schedule.  When you get married as an older adult, you work through the transition to put your spouse before yourself.  When you have a baby, there is someone else before yourself.  My order is God, husband, baby, me.  And this does not even take into consideration family, church, and service.

Tuesday, May 22, 2012

Vegetable Chronicles, 2

Yes, it has been five months since my last post.  Whatever, I still consider myself a "new mom" and am, therefore, incredibly preoccupied.  Today I hereby proclaim to resume good posting habits!

I feel like I should offer some follow up on the Vegetable Chronicles.

The garden went neglected last summer as I was very pregnant, and it was the hottest summer in many years here in Big D.

As of today, we have 5 things growing ... italian parsley, rosemary, catnip, weeds and grass.

I really want to fill the spaces growing grass and weeds with marigolds for the summer.  And get rid of the catnip since Milo does not go outside anymore.  One day, we will revive the garden again.  For now, even the flower beds in front of the house are growing last years flowers that wintered well since there was no freeze.  SK is dying to get out there and plant new flowers.  He is still a preoccupied "new dad".